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Like all other
gifts of God entrusted to man for the benefit of the human race,
the marriage institution was perverted by sin. Divorce and
remarriage, as well as other anomalies, were wide ly established
and commonly accepted practices among the nations before the days
of Moses. The patriarchs, being men of God, were nevertheless
subject to the influence of their environment. Their familiarity
with popular customs blinded their eyes, and they were not always
able to see sin in the light that God sees it. Abraham and Jacob
were polygamists, not because they wanted to defy God and rebel
against His law, but because their minds had been affected by the
moral conditions that surrounded them, and they could see nothing
wrong in certain social customs, like polygamy.
When the children
of Israel left Egypt, they brought an Egyptian mentality with them.
Divorce and polygamy were permitted among them. Although these
practices were completely alien to God's original arrangement,
Moses sanctioned them in his civil code, which at least in this
respect, was influenced by popular custom. God did not stop Moses
from granting such a law, because the Jewish people, still under
the influence of regional custom, were not prepared to make great
strides to ward the perfect will of Him who rules the universe.
But as the
purpose of the gospel is "to seek and to save that which was
lost" (Luke 19:10), and as "every divine institution is
to be restored" (PK 678), Christ could not be expected to
approve those imperfections in the legislation of Moses. The
original ideal of the marriage institution must be reinstated-its
original purity and beauty must be retrieved-through the gospel of
our Lord Jesus Christ.
In the days of
Christ there were among the Jews two schools of thought and
practice. One was led by Shammai, who granted divorce on the
ground of adultery alone, while the other was under the direction
of Hillel, who condoned divorce on any pretext which the husband
might have. The Pharisees were often involved in the controversy
between these two schools, and now they decided to tempt Jesus by
drawing Him into the conflict.
"Is it
lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?" they
asked.
The Lord answered:
"Have ye not
read that he which made them at the beginning made them male and
female, . . . For this cause shall a man leave father and mother,
and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh, .
. . What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put
asunder."
The Pharisees
objected:
"Why did
Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put
her away?"
"Moses,
because of the hardness of your hearts, suffered you to put away
your wives," Jesus explained, "but from the beginning it
was not so." (Read Matt. 19:3-8.)
Jesus made it
clear that the bill of divorcement mentioned in the legislation of
Moses (Deut. 24:1-5) was not a command, as the Pharisees tried to
interpret it, but only a consent based, not on the perfect will of
God, but on the hardness of their hearts, which were influenced by
social customs. Jesus appealed to Genesis 2:24 against Deuteronomy
24:1-5, showing that, in the plan of salvation, the perfect will
of God must triumph over the hardness of man's heart and over any
and every consent thereby obtained.
The Christian
religion-by putting the marriage institution into operation
according to the original plan of God-has done more toward decency,
justice, peace, happiness, and civilization than any other power
in the world.
"The
institution of marriage keeps the moral world in being, and
secures it from an untimely dissolution. Without it, natural
affection and amiableness would not exist, domestic education
would become extinct, industry and economy be unknown, and man
would be left to the precarious existence of the savage. But for
this institution, learning and refinement would expire, government
sink into the gulf of anarchy; and religion, hunted from earth,
would hasten back to her native heavens."-T. Dwight.
"How
Readest Thou?"
With reference to
divorce and remarriage, if we want to have a clear picture before
our eyes, we must put together everything that has been written on
the subject and consider time, place, and special circumstances.
When Jesus confronted the lawyer's question, He did not only say,
"What is written?" but also, "How readest thou?"
(Luke 10:26). It is dangerous to read the Bible with preconceived
ideas, because we may, as a consequence, read our erroneous
conclusions into a "Thus saith the Lord," making the
Holy Scriptures say what they do not say. Consider this example:
It is written that Abraham, who was a polygamist (Gen. 25:6), is
our father in the faith (Rom. 4:12; Gal. 3:7). And there are those
who read these verses with carnal eyes, proclaiming that polygamy
is all right. We may also be tempted to read some Bible verses (Matt.
5:32; 19:9) and some of E.G. White's letters in a similar way.
Strange enough, some people seem to be under the impression that
Sister White's personal advice, her personal opinion, should be
adopted as a doctrinal rule for the church as far as divorce and
remarriage is concerned.
To stay on the
safe side in this matter, let us take a single hearted look into a
few scriptures in an endeavor to obtain answers to some basic
questions.
Back to
Genesis
If a man divorces
his wife for no good reason and marries another woman, it is
evident that he, thereby, commits adultery. What is not clear to
some people is whether his ex-wife, the in nocent party, is now
free to remarry. Should the exception clause found in Matthew 5:32
and 19:9, together with Sister White's personal advice concerning
a second marriage, be taken as final evidence for a doctrine and a
rule in behalf of divorce and remarriage? Some are ready to say,
Yes. We, however, differ and, hereunder, we set forth the reasons
why we think otherwise.
When Jesus was
confronted with the question of divorce and remarriage, He did not
introduce an innovation. He simply drew the attention of his
hearers to the days of old to the marriage institution as it was
originally given by God and as it was protected by God's law and
made it clear to them that the concession of Moses was not in
harmony with the ideal of God. Considered in its pristine sense,
when everything that God had made was very good (Gen. 1:31), the
marriage institution was to be considered indissoluble. Read Matt.
19:3-12 and Luke 16:17, 18. Jesus said:
"And it is
easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to
fail. [Therefore:] Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth
another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is
put away from her husband committeth adultery."
Here we have the
case of an innocent woman that is divorced from a man who put her
away, not with a view to remaining unmarried and chaste, but for
the purpose of becoming legally attached to another woman. And,
according to the verse, he has already taken this step. Back to
our first question: His ex-wife, the innocent party, who has
received a bill of divorcement from her adulterous husband is she
free now to remarry? No! Jesus said, in Luke 16:18, that if she
follows the example of her exhusband, she becomes guilty of the
same sin into which he has become involved. Result: two cases of
adultery involving four people. On this basic question there is
perfect harmony between the gospels (Matt. 5:32; 19:9; Mark 10:12;
Luke 16:18) and the writings of Paul (Rom. 7:1-3; 1 Cor. 7:10, 11,
39): a divorced lady has no right to remarry so long as her
husband lives. And we think that the same rule must hold good for
a divorced man also.
Harmony
Between Christ and Paul
As Paul was well
acquainted with the truth as taught by Christ (1 Cor. 11:23, first
part), there is perfect harmony between them in the way they
handled the marriage institution. (1) Jesus taught that a wife
should not leave her husband and a husband should not leave his
wife (Mark 10:2-12). Paul taught: "Let not the wife depart
from her husband . . . and let not the husband put away his wife."
1 Cor. 7:10, 11. (2) If the exception clause actually belongs to
the original, Jesus referred to the problem of fornication as it
would often appear in the Jewish society (Matt. 5:32; 19:9). The
suspicion of Joseph concerning his betrothed wife is a good
example to this effect (Matt. 1:18-20). Paul dealt with the
problem of fornication as it commonly occurred in the Greek
society. He taught that connubial unions based on fornication must
be dissolved (1 Cor. 6:15-18; 7:2). (3) Jesus taught that an in
nocent wife put away by her adulterous husband is not permitted to
become the wife of another man (Matt. 19:9; Luke 16:18). Paul
taught that a wife, though put away by her husband, is still
"bound by the law as long as her husband liveth" (1 Cor.
7:10-15, 39; Rom. 7:1-3).
In 1 Corinthians
7:10-15, 39, Paul speaks of Christian wives separated from their
unbelieving husbands. Adultery in this case is not mentioned, but
its existence is self-evident, because, as a rule, heathen men
would certainly become involved with other women after putting
away their Christian wives. No amount of naivety would make us
believe that they would re main chaste. Nevertheless, the rule set
down for the separated wife is irrelevant to the moral (or immoral?)
conduct of the husband. So long as the husband lives, a Christian
wife who is separated from her husband has only two
possibilities-either remain single or become reconciled to him.
In the days of
the apostles, those holding certain offices in the church, as well
as widows entitled to the ministration of the relief fund, had to
meet certain conditions, one of which was blamelessness. Thus only"husbands
of one wife" could serve as pastors (bishops) and deacons,
and only a widow who "had been the wife of one man"
would qualify to be put on the list of those for whom the church
had to provide (1 Tim. 3:2, 12; 5:9). For this reason, the
Samaritan woman (John 4:l6-18), who had been the wife of more than
one husband, and had therefore "broken God's commandments"
(Story of Jesus, p. 55), would not meet the requirements. This
fact is additional evidence that divorce and remarriage is not in
conformity with the perfect will of God.
Legislation of
Moses: Divorce and Remarriage Permitted
In the civil
legislation given to Israel, a man was permitted to give his wife
a bill of divorcement, send her away, and marry another woman. He
could even take more than one. Polygamy was tolerated in Israel.
And the divorced woman could legally become the wife of another
man. Read Deut. 24:1-5.
The question here
is: Why did Moses insert in his legislation for the Jewish people
a provision which was contrary to the original plan of God and in
conflict with the law of God (compare Deuteronomy 24:1, 2 with
Matthew 19:3-12 and Luke 16:17, 18)? He did it, Jesus said,
because of the hardness of their hearts. With their Egyptian
mentality they were not prepared to adopt and appreciate the
marriage institution in its original form and beauty and in
harmony with the real intent of God's law. Therefore, Moses was
permitted to grant them a concession which God actually and
explicitly hated (Mal. 2:15, 16).
Another
concession which was granted to Israel very much against the will
of God, is found in Numbers 11:4-34 and Psalms 78:25-31; 106:14,
15. They wanted to return to the use of flesh as in Egypt, and the
Lord let them have their way.
And here is
another example: In its true sense, the law of God demands love
(Rom. 13:l0)-love toward God and toward our neighbor (Matt.
22:36-40), regardless of whether the neigh bor is a friend or an
enemy (Matt. 5:43-45). But the children of Israel were not
prepared to understand the law of God in this light. Therefore,
they were given a special concession which was later removed by
Christ. The Lord said to His hearers:
"Ye have
heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a
tooth: but I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever
shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also....
Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbor,
and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless
them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for
them which despitefully use you, and persecute you." Matt.
5:38, 39, 43, 44.
Again we see that,
because of the hardness of their hearts, the Jews obtained
concessions which did not reflect the perfect will of God. "Wherefore
I gave them also statutes that were not good" (Ezek. 20:25),
the Lord said.
If, instead of
being lenient, God had strictly imposed His perfect will upon the
Jews, forcing them to abide by certain standards which they were
not prepared to accept, can we imagine what would have happened?
Rebellion after rebellion. And then? Would God have been forced to
destroy them utter ly? Only God knows. What is really important
for us is that the above facts answer a basic question: While the
hearts of God's professed people are in Egypt (Acts 7:39), may
they get Egypt oriented concessions? Yes, they may. This has
happened also in the days of modern Israel.
Parallel
Between Moses and Sister White
The Adventist
people have followed in the footsteps of ancient Israel (5T 94).
"The same disobedience and failure which were seen in the
Jewish church have characterized in a greater degree the people
who have had this great light from heaven in the last messages of
warning." ST 456. "The church has turned back from
following Christ her Leader and is steadily retreating toward
Egypt." 5T 217. Therefore, not the perfect will of God (Rom.
12:1, 2), but worldly-minded concessions have prevailed among them
even with the consent of Sister White. What she did was similar to
what Moses had done before her. Here are a few examples:
Adventists have
never considered meat-eating a serious issue. Sister White was
tolerant in this matter, although she made it clear that the (true)
people of God will discard this practice completely (CH 450; CD
82, 382). Hop plantations (for beer), tobacco fields, and the
raising of swine were permitted among the Adventists, while the
prophetess recommended that these things should not be made a test
of fellowship (2SM 338). Even the eating of pork, she said, was
not to be made a test. In the early days of the message, she was
not sure if God actually wanted His people to abstain from swine's
flesh (lT 206, 207) . If there was tolerance for these worldly
practices, it is not hard for us to understand why divorce and
remarriage was also tolerated. God never gives a people more light
than they can bear.
Not only that.
When there are questions concerning which God has not sent a
special revelation, the prophet may utter his personal opinion. In
so doing, he generally goes along with the beliefs and practices
of the church, which are not always cor rect. This we can see in
the history of ancient Israel. If a person is called to be God's
chosen servant, that does not mean that all his thoughts, and
words, and actions are necessarily inspired by God. Evidences show
that men of God were not prevented from expressing their human
ideas. Thus, Abraham believed that Ishmael should be the heir of
God's promise (Gen. 17:15-18); Jacob said, "Joseph is without
doubt rent in pieces" (Gen. 37:33); Joshua thought there was
war in the camp (Ex. 32:17); Samuel thought Eliab was the Lord's
anointed (l Sam. 16:6, 7); Elijah took it for granted that he was
the only one on the side of the Lord in Israel (1 Kings 19:14,
18); Nathan the prophet encouraged David to build the temple
contrary to the will of God (1 Chron. 17:1-4); John the Baptist
had wrong ideas concerning the prophesied opening of prison doors
(DA 214, 215); and the twelve had some wrong ideas, too (Luke
9:54, 55; Matt. 16:22, 23; Acts 1:6; John 21:23; etc.). The
prevalence of human ideas can be seen also in the history of the
Advent people, not only in the areas mentioned above, but also in
some other areas. There was a time, for example, when Sister White
already a prophetess, thought that in 1844 the door of mercy had
actually been closed to the world forever ( lSM 64) and that
Sabbathkeeping was not important (lT 76).
The Sacred and
the Common
There is no doubt
in our minds that Sister White's testimonies are from God, but
sometimes, in her letters, she wrote certain things, "not as
a revelation from the Lord, but simply as a human opinion."
It would be good for us to pay attention to her warning. She said:
"The
information given concerning the number of rooms in the Paradise
Valley Sanitarium was given, not as a revelation from the Lord,
but simply as a human opinion.... In my words, when speaking upon
these common subjects, there is nothing to lead minds to believe
that I receive my knowledge in a vision from the Lord and am
stating it as such.... [F]or one to mix the sacred with the common
is a great mistake. In a tendency to do this we may see the
working of the enemy to destroy souls.... [T]here are times when
common things must be stated, common thoughts must occupy the
mind, common letters must be written and information given that
has passed from one to another of the workers. Such words, such
information, are not given under the special inspiration of the
Spirit of God. 1SM 38, 39.
According to this
statement, when a prophet writes on common subjects, he may use
his personal conclusions without depending on a special revelation
from the Lord. And according to examples given before, the prophet
may also speak his own mind on subjects which are not so common.
When Sister White wrote on the subject of divorce, she could only
give her personal advice. In 1868 she, together with her husband,
sent the following statement to the Advent Review:
"In cases of
the violation of the seventh commandment, where the guilty party
does not manifest true repentance, if the injured party can obtain
a divorce without making their own cases and that of their
children, if they have them, worse by so doing, they should be
free....
"Why will
not those who are overtaken in crime [adultery] manifest
repentance proportionate to the enormity of their crime, and fly
to Christ for mercy, and heal, as far as possible, the wounds they
have made?
"But, if
they will not do as they should, and if the innocent have
forfeited the legal right to a divorce, by living with the guilty
after his guilt is known, we do not see that sin rests upon the
innocent in remaining, and her moral right in departing seems
questionable, if her health and life be not greatly endangered in
so remaining." RH March 24, 1868.
Consider the
warning: "Her moral right in departing seems
questionable." To our omniscient God nothing seems
questionable. He is always sure. However, when a prophet does not
have a special revelation from God, certain issues may seem
questionable to him.
Sister White was
consulted about a second marriage which had already been
consummated. There was a special circum stance: The man had a
physical defect which made him sterile. According to the Ellen G.
White Estate, he was a "mutilated individual." Sister
White wrote: "As you have asked my advice I will freely give
it to you." And she wrote: "It may be that this marriage
is in the order of God" (2SM 340, 339). If she was not sure,
what else could she say but "may be"?
As more and more
letters were coming to Sister White, asking her advice in
connection with marriage problems, she final ly refused to answer
such letters. And she revealed to the church the reason for her
refusal to handle such cases: "I do not think," she
wrote, "that any such letters as that ought to be placed
before me. I do not think it is my work to deal with any such
things, unless the case has been plainly opened before me. There
should be brethren in the church who have wisdom, who can speak
decidedly regarding this case. I cannot understand such
things." MS 2, 1913.
As Sister White
stated that, without a special revelation from God, she could not
understand these problems, and was lately hesitant to give her
advice on these things, and as there is evidence that she did not
want the church to use her writings "as a law or rule in
dealing with these questions of marriage, remarriage, and
adultery," we think it safer, in this particular matter, to
use only the Bible.
In a letter to a
worker (Jan. 6, 1931), W.C. White brought this evidence to light
when he mentioned certain "documents" or writings of
Sister White. He wrote:
"After
reading the documents I today send you, you will say, 'Well, he
has not given me anything authoritative from Sister White that
directly answers the question.' But I think you will see from what
I am sending you that it was Sister White's intention that there
should not go forth from her pen anything that could be used as a
law or a rule in dealing with these questions of marriage,
divorce, remarriage, and adultery."-Unscriptural Divorces and
Social Relationships, pp. 47, 48.
If these writings
of Sister White had been included along with her personal letters
in AH 344 and 2SM 339, 340, not so many believers would be tempted
to make a wrong use of those letters.
It is obvious
that, if those letters were not included in the nine volumes of
Testimonies for the Church, they should not be used as a rule or
law in the church.
The Spirit of
Prophecy warns us that the Bible and the Bible alone is to be the
foundation of our faith (GC 173; 238; 595; FE 451; COL 39, 40; 2SM
85). When people cannot substantiate their ideas with a clear and
unquestionable "Thus saith the Lord" quoted from the
Bible, and therefore seek forbidden support in Sister White's
personal letters, as is the case of those who advocate divorce and
remarriage, it is evident to us that they are heading in the wrong
direction. She warns us:
"Lay Sister
White right to one side. Lay her to one side. Don't you ever quote
my words again as long as you live, until you can obey the
Bible." UT 167.
There is another
letter by W.C. White (Oct. 6, 1911) which shows that there was
progressive strictness in Sister White's attitude toward the
question of divorce and remarriage. He says:
"Mother has
received during the last twenty years many letters making inquiry
regarding the matters about which you write, and she has many
times written in reply that she had no advice to give different
from that of the apostle Paul. Recently she has refused to deal
with letters of this character, and tells us not to bring them to
her attention." -Unscriptural Divorces and Social
Relationships, p. 47.
So, while Sister
White does not allow us to use her personal letters as a rule or
law in this matter, she comes to a point where she has no other
advice but that of the apostle Paul (Rom. 7:1-3; 1 Cor. 7:11, 39).
Together with
Sister White we abide by the instructions of the apostle Paul. No
one will forfeit eternal life by following his advice, but there
is danger in going contrary to his counsel. Why should we change a
safe road for a hazardous path, if we are honestly interested in
salvation and if we believe that the door of probation is soon to
close?
Who Alone is
Infallible?
It is known that,
from its every inception, the SDA Church has endorsed the practice
of divorce and remarriage for the innocent party and that Sister
White has never been opposed to this practice. And there is more:
In some cases divorce and remarriage for reasons other than
adultery was also tolerated, even with the written consent of
Sister White. This is clearly stated in the publication entitled
Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the Writings of Ellen G.
White, issued by The Ellen G. White Estate, Jan. 20, 1983, as well
as in the Spectrum, vol. 7, no. 2. So, if the concessions used in
the days of Sister White are actually valid today for those who
are preparing for translation, and if the advocates of divorce
want to be consistent with themselves, then they must extend their
tolerance beyond the limits that they are actually willing to
concede. In other words, if they endorse everything that the
church did as far as concessions are concerned, then they are not
far from sanctioning divorce and remarriage also for reasons other
than unfaithfulness to the marriage vow. We think that in this
case the following warnings from the servant of the Lord are very
appropriate:
"In regard
to infallibility, I never claimed it; God alone is infallible. His
word is true, and in Him is no variableness, or shadow of
turning." 1SM 37.
"We cannot
hold that a position once taken, an idea once advocated, is not,
under any circumstances, to be relinquished. There is but One who
is infallible-He who is the way, the truth, and the life." TM
105.
"We have
many lessons to learn, and many, many to unlearn. God and heaven
alone are infallible. Those who think that they will never have to
give up a cherished view, never have occasion to change an
opinion, will be disappointed." 1SM 37.
"[T]he Holy
Spirit will, from time to time, reveal the truth through its own
chosen agencies; and no man, not even a priest or ruler, has a
right to say, You shall not give publicity to your opinions,
because I do not believe them....
"Even
Seventh-day Adventists are in danger of closing their eyes to
truth as it is in Jesus, because it contradicts something which
they have taken for granted as truth but which the Holy Spirit
teaches is not truth." TM 70.
"Light,
brethren, more light we need. Blow the trumpet in Zion; sound an
alarm in the holy mountain. Gather the host of the Lord, with
sanctified hearts, to hear what the Lord will say unto His people;
for He has increased light for all who will hear." TM 410.
An important area
in which the Lord is willing to bless His people with more light
is the area of the original institutions of God. In her last days
Sister White wrote:
"In the time
of the end, every divine institution is to be restored." PK
678.
The institutions
which God's people have inherited from Eden are: the Sabbath,
health reform, and marriage. At the end of her ministry, Sister
White appealed for a reformation in the lives of God's people in
connection with these original principles, and, today, her appeal
is still in force. Now that the second coming of Christ is at the
door, this is our last chance to meet God's perfect and complete
ideal for His people.
Read about the
law and the Sabbath in Isaiah 8:13-16, 20 61:1-4; 58:12-14; about
health reform in Isaiah 22:12-14, 22-24; and about marriage in
Malachi 2:13-17.
Two Difficult
Texts
The professed
Christian churches are sharply divided on the interpretation and
application of Matthew 5:32; 19:9.
When we turn to
Matthew 5:32, we understand that the main purpose of this passage
is to show how a man is to act so that he will not cause his wife
to commit adultery. Mark the words pointing out the conditions
under which he will or will not become responsible for her sin:
"But I say
unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the
cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and
whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth
adultery." Matt. 5:32.
In this passage,
the woman plays a passive role. She has no choice. She is simply
put away, and this may happen under two different circumstances:
a) When she is
innocent
An innocent
woman, if forced to separate from her husband, commits adultery by
getting married to another man. In this case her first husband
shares the responsibility of her sin because it is he that
"causeth her to commit adultery" by putting her away.
b) When she is
guilty of fornication
If the wife is
guilty, it is all right for her husband to put her away and become
free from his obligations toward her, and by so doing he is not
responsible for her sins, whether past or future.
This scripture,
as can be seen, is primarily concerned with the husband's
responsibility toward his wife. It shows under what circumstances
he may become guilty in connection with her transgressions. There
is no word, however, concerning his right to remarry. The second
purpose of this passage is to teach that a divorced woman has no
right to become the wife of another man. The reasons why or the
circumstance under which she got a divorce do not seem to
influence the prohibition. The law is unconditional: 'Whosoever
shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."
Matthew 5:32 does not teach that remarriage is permissible.
Even some
advocates of divorce and remarriage avow that the above idea is
all that is contained in Matthew 5:32. A professor of Systematic
Theology admits:
"Jesus says
nothing here with respect to the question of the remarriage of the
man who puts away his wife for the cause of fornication.... And
this is the only case in which, according to Christ's ambiguous
assertion, a man may dismiss his wife without being involved in
the sin which Jesus proceeds to characterize as making his wife to
be an adulteress.... All that is stated is that if the husband
puts [her] away for this reason [fornication] he is not involved
in the sin specified [her later adultery]."-John Murray,
Divorce, pp. 20, 21.
The other text
reads:
"Whosoever
shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall
marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which
is put away doth commit adultery." Matt. 19:9.
The meaning of
"fornication" as distinguished from "adultery"
will be explained a little later. In the first place, we just want
to draw the attention of the reader to a question which is often
raised: Does this clause ("except it be for
fornication") apply only to the putting away of the guilty
wife or does it necessarily extend to the remarriage of the
innocent husband? From a purely grammatical standpoint, it can be
said that by the exception clause the innocent husband is allowed
to repudiate his guilty wife, but it cannot be dogmatized that, by
the same clause, he is automatically permitted to remarry. The
grammatical construction of the verse makes this second right
questionable. To clarify this point, an example may be helpful.
The verse in Matthew 5:32 may be paraphrased as follows:
"Whosoever
is angry with his brother, except there is a cause, and says to
him, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire."
To make the point
still clearer let us analyze the following sentence:
"Whosoever
is angry with his brother, except there is a cause, and kills him,
shall be kept out of heaven because of murder."
What does the
exception clause allow you to do? If you think you have a cause,
you may become angry with your brother. Read Eph. 4:36. But don't
pull the exceptive clause too far. So, while the exception in
Matthew 19:9 permits the first step (separation), it does not
necessarily apply to the second step (remarriage). Separation
without remarriage is clearly taught in the last part of the same
verse, where we read that the innocent lady, divorced from her
adulterous husband, has no right to become the wife of another
man. Separation without remarriage is also taught in Luke 16:18; 1
Corinthians 7:10, 11, and is implied in Romans 7:1-3; 1
Corinthians 7:39; 1 Timothy 3:2, 12; 5:9.
For Matthew 19:9,
it should be borne in mind that important codices support a
variant form which reads "maketh her to commit adultery"
instead of "committeth adultery," putting Matthew 19:9
in perfect alignment with Matthew 5:32. (See comments on Matthew
5:32.)
In our analysis
of these two verses (Matt. 5:32; 19:9) we must bear in mind,
however, that fornication and adultery are not one and the same
thing.
Porneia and
Moikeia
For transgression
of the seventh commandment under two different circumstances the
New Testament uses two different words-fornication (porneia) and
adultery (moikeia). Both sins are mentioned side by side, which
indicates that they are not used synonymously. See examples: Matt.
15:19; Mark 7:21; 1 Cor. 6:9; Gal. 5:19; Heb. 13:4.
In a strictly
technical sense, fornication is not adultery. The following
definitions and quotations may help us understand the distinction:
Fornication:
"Illicit sexual intercourse on the part of an unmarried
person."-Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary. "Sexual
intercourse between unmarried persons or between a married and an
unmarried person."-The Advanced Learner's Dictionary of
Current English.
"As
fornication signifies no more than the unlawful connection of
unmarried persons, it cannot be used here (Matt. 5:32) with
propriety, when speaking of those who are married." Clarke's
Commentary.
"In its more
restricted sense fornication denotes voluntary sexual communion
between an unmarried person and one of the opposite sex. In this
sense the fornicators (pornoi) are distinguished from the
adulterers (moichoi) as in 1 Corinthians 6:9." Baker's
Dictionary of Theology.
Adultery:
"Generally speaking, [adultery is] voluntary sexual
intercourse between two people, one or both of whom is married to
someone else. Ordinarily, the crime of the married person is
adultery, of the other, fornication."The National
Encyclopedia.
"Adultery.
Sexual intercourse of a married person with other than the
marriage partner.... Adultery is technically distinguished from
fornication, which is intercourse between unmarried
persons."-Wycliffe Bible Encyclopedia.
Because the
distinction between fornication and adultery, and between a
betrothed wife and a wedded wife is often over looked, Matthew
5:32 and 19:9 are regarded as allowing divorce and remarriage in
cases where the prior marriage was broken by reason of adultery.
In the Jewish
society it was the duty and prerogative of the father to secure
wives for his sons. When the marriage agreement was made with the
family of the intended bride, the damsel was brought into the
presence of her suitor, and both simply acquiesced to the
arrangements made. This was called espousing or betrothing.
"There was
generally an interval of ten or twelve months, and sometimes
considerably more, between the time of making the marriage
contract, or the day of espousals, and the marriage itself....
During all this interval, however, while the bride continued still
in her father's house, she was considered and spoken of as the
lawful wife of the man to whom she was betrothed; so that the
bridegroom could not destroy their engagement, if he became
unwilling to marry her, without giving her a bill of a
divorcement, in the same manner as if she had been fully wedded;
and so, on the other hand, if she proved unfaithful to her
espoused husband [during the betrothal period], she was punished
[in the same way] as an adulteress."-John W. Nevin, A Summary
of Biblical Antiquities, pp. 123, 124.
The first problem
that a man had to face when contemplating marriage was, as the
Bible shows, the possible unfaithfulness of his betrothed wife
during the engagement period. This contingency was covered by the
legislation of Moses as follows:
"If any man
take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, . . . I and say, I
took this woman and when I came to her, I found her not a maid, .
. . and . . . if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity
be not found for the damsel: then they shall bring out the damsel
to the door of her father's house, and the men of her a city shall
stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly
in Israel, to play the whore in her father's house: so shalt thou
put evil away from among you.... If a damsel that is a virgin be
betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie
with her; then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that
city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the
damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man,
because he hath humbled his neighbor's wife: so thou shalt put
away evil from among you." Deut. 22:13, 14, 20, 21, 23, 24.
Note in these
verses that man and woman were regarded as husband and wife during
the time of betrothal, before their, cohabitation in actual
marriage. And the unfaithfulness of the damsel during this period
was called whoredom (i.e., porneia in the Septuagint). The
suspicion of Joseph about Mary is an example of what was
understood as porneia (fornication) on the part of a betrothed
wife. We read:
"When as his
[Jesus'] mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came
together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph
her husband, being a just man, and not will ing to make her a
publick example, was minded to put her away privily. But while he
thought on these things, behold the angel of the Lord appeared
unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not
to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in
her is of the Holy Ghost." Matt. 1:18-20.
While Joseph and
Mary were husband and wife only in the sense that they were
betrothed to each other, and, therefore, prior to their coming
together in actual marriage, we read that Jesus was born. Trying
to capitalize on this circumstance and to destroy His reputation,
the Jews said to Jesus: "We be not born of fornication."
John 8:41. It is evident, therefore, that they used the term
"fornication" for sexual crime committed by a betroth ed
wife before the actual marriage had taken place. It was in this
sense that they used their base insinuation. Sister White comments
on this incident:
"In mockery
they [the Jews] answered, 'We be not born of fornication; we have
one Father, even God.' These words, in allusion to the
circumstances of His birth, were intended as a thrust against
Christ in the presence of those who were beginning to believe on
Him." DA 467.
Whether the
unfaithfulness (or fornication) of a betrothed wife was found out
before or right after the actual marriage, the innocent husband
was free to reject her, according to a provision contained in the
legislation of Moses. And, pursuant to the exceptive clause (which
is a clear reference to this provision), the innocent husband
still has the same right, but it is questionable whether in the
days of Jesus and the apostles a husband could cause his wife to
be stoned according to the law. Anyhow, under the New
Dispensation, the words of Jesus vindicating the perfect will of
God as revealed in His original plan in Eden must have given rise
to serious questions. For example: If a man is not permitted to
put away his wife, what if he finds out that his betrothed wife
has committed fornication? That would, as we mentioned before, be
the first problem a man would have to face when getting married a
problem foreseen in the legislation of Moses, which was brought up
in the discussion between Jesus and the Pharisees.
Once the above
circumstances are admitted in connection with Matthew 5:32 and
19:9, it should not be difficult to understand that the purpose of
the exception clause (whether originally spoken by Jesus or later
interpolated by a copyist) was to show that a man is free to
reject his betrothed wife for the crime of premarital
unfaithfulness.
By the way, we
must at this juncture touch a rather delicate point. Women who
have conscience problems concerning their past conduct often seek
advice. And our ministers should be prepared to handle such
problems and answer questions with one accord. We think that,
before final marriage arrangements are made, a woman who was
morally involved should confess her past mistakes to the man whom
she is going to marry. Using the biblical terminology, we would
say: In case of fornication, a betrothed wife should confess the
fact to her betrothed husband before the marriage takes place. It
is true, on the one hand, that through such a confession, he may
lose interest in her. But, on the other hand, it is also true that
concealment may bring serious consequences. Her previous sin and
present deception may be found out. In some countries, if the
newlywed husband appears before the Justice of the Peace with the
complaint that he was deceived because his bride was not a virgin,
he has the legal right to demand that the marriage be declared
null and void. And his request is granted. But what if she keeps
quiet and the fact is never found out by her husband? Then she is
not a truly repentant Magdalene, and later on, her troubled
conscience may start tormenting her for having practiced
deception. Men and women who have gone through the experience of
genuine repentance and conversion, will make confessions to each
other before they are bound together by the marriage vow.
As explained
before, fornication committed by a betrothed wife (before the
marriage) is one thing, and adultery committed by a wedded wife
(after the marriage has been consummated) is another thing. But
there is yet another circumstance under which the exception clause
(Matt. 5:32; 19:9) may have an application if a man and a woman
are living together in fornication. Paul referred to such a
condition when he wrote:
"Know ye not
that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the
members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God
forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is
one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.... Flee
fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but
he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body....
[T]o avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let
every woman have her own husband." 1 Cor. 6:15-18; 7:2.
In a situation
where this sin is present, Matthew 19:9 could be understood as
follows: "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his
wife [unless he is not lawfully married but is living in
fornication] and shall marry another, committeth adultery."
With reference to the exception clause (Matt. 5:32; 19:9), why
should we ignore situations in which the term
"fornication" fits unquestionably and imagine a
situation in which its use is very questionable (a situation which
would require confusing fornication with adultery)?
When the
disciples understood the restrictions which involve the marriage
institution, they expressed their conclusion: "If the case of
the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry." Adding
to their conclusion, Jesus said: "And there be eunuchs, which
have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's
sake" (Matt. 19:10, 12). For those who cannot restore their
broken marriage, celibacy seems to be the safest position.
Celibacy was also
recommended by E.G. White and her husband, not as a general rule,
but as an individual attitude in some cases in which a person may
have doubts, fearing that marriage with its bitter anguish could
endanger his entrance into the kingdom. They wrote:
"If Paul
could remain single, and recommend the same to others, that he and
they might be wholly the Lord's, why not those who would be wholly
his, . . . remain as he was? And more, if he chose to remain so,
and could recommend it to others, eighteen centuries since, would
not to remain as he was, be a commendable course for those who are
waiting for the coming of the Son of man, unless evidences were
unquestionable that they were bettering their condition, and
making Heaven more sure by so doing? When so much is at stake, why
not be on the sure side every time?" RH March 24, 1868.
"All men
cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.... He
that is able to receive it, let him receive it." Matt. 19:11,
12.
Rightly Dividing the Word of
Truth
The correct
interpretation of certain texts depends on an understanding of
regional and contemporary conditions on, which these texts stand.
This is true especially with verses referring to the marriage
institution. In the Jewish society, the initiative in seeking a
divorce would always come from the husband. An investigator of the
subject under discussion says: "Among the Jews the wife and
the husband were not on an equality; the husband might commit
whoredom with an unmarried woman without being an adulterer; the
wife was an adulteress when she fell into similar
transgression."-Theodore D. Woolsey, Divorce and Divorce
Legislation, p. 68. From this standpoint, Jewish custom could be
compared to a one-way street. In fact, the Old Testament,
especially the legislation of Moses, is full of evidences that
what a man could do to his wife, a woman could not do to her
husband. On this particular, Jesus did not contradict the
traditions of the Jewish nation. Therefore, if you are looking in
the teachings of Jesus for a reference to the supposed right of a
woman to divorce her husband, you are looking for a reference that
does not exist. Neither Matthew, nor Mark, nor Luke suggest that a
woman was able to divorce her husband. And in case of divorce
(when a man divorced his wife), or, in case of separation, Paul
(Rom. 7:1-3; l Cor. 7:10, 11, 39) agrees with Matthew (5:32;
19:9), Mark (10:2-12), and Luke (16:18) that a woman is not free
to remarry. This is just one more fact that is often overlooked by
the advocates of divorce who draw their conclusions from Matthew
5:32 and 19:9.
It is true that a
man, as mentioned before, had more rights than a woman, but
Matthew 19:9, which is often invoked in this connection, does not
say explicitly that a man is free to remarry because of adultery
on the part of his wedded wife. Those who bear in mind the
plausible explanations given in previous pages will not try to
extort questionable concessions from the exception clause.
Conscience
Severely Tested
After these
considerations we should be prepared to answer another question.
Shortly before the days of Christ's ministry, there is,
hypothetically, a group of faithful Jews whose hearts are in
Canaan, not in Egypt. As they are under the influence of the Holy
Spirit, they have a clear perception of. what the Lord meant when
He said: "Ye shall be holy; for I am holy" (Lev. 11:44).
And, although they have never seen Christ, they have a correct
understanding of the original institutions of God. They see
marriage in the light of God's plan in the beginning of the world
and can only say what Christ would have said (Matt. 19:3-12; Luke
16:17, 18). The question now is: Should they, against their
conscience, put the concession of Moses (Deut. 24:1, 2) above the
original plan of God (Gen. 2:24)? What argument should they use
when people confront them with the legislation of Moses?
History repeats
itself. Let us turn our attention to the early days of the Advent
Movement. There are some faithful believers who understand that
God wants them to keep the Sabbath and abstain from pork-eating.
This actually happened. Sister White is not yet convinced on these
points (lT 76, 206, 207) and she makes her opinion known. So these
people know what the Bible says and
what the
prophetess thinks. Now, what should these sincere believers do in
this particular case?
As the reader can
see, under certain circumstances, the con science of some people
may be severely tested when they have important doctrinal issues
before them and when they see that the concessions or conclusions
of the prophet on these issues are not in harmony with the perfect
will of God. Dear reader, place yourself hypothetically among
these conscientious believers, read James 4:17, pray earnestly to
God, and decide for yourself what you would do. Would you
consciously and conscientiously use a concession that does not
meet the perfect will of God? The decision is entirely yours.
A similar
decision, under similar circumstances, is required of us in
connection with the divorce and remarriage issue.
The SDA Reform
Movement came into existence primarily as a sincere effort to
restore the broken law of God, when the SDA Church allowed and in
many cases even encouraged her members to take a combatant
position seven days a week, including the Sabbath, during World
War I. The matter of divorce and remarriage, which also affects
the law of God, was not discussed at that time. Nevertheless, it
is our duty before God to give attention to this point, because an
important principle is involved. On this question we do not share
the stand taken by the Adventist Church.
Take for example
the case of a man who has fallen in sin without continuing in it.
He repents and, with tears in his eyes, confesses his fault and
asks his wife to forgive him. If she refuses to do so, and takes
her husband's wrongdoing as a pretext to leave him and join
another man, we think that the legitimacy of her purpose must be
seriously questioned. Her motives seem to be altogether
licentious, and her sin should be regarded as greater than his. In
such case we believe that repentance, reconciliation, and
restoration is still the best way, especially if the couple have
children.
To us it has
always been clear that, while divorce was in harmony with a lower
spiritual condition, where the tolerance of God was manifested, it
does not agree with the highest spiritual condition, where the
perfect will of God is to prevail (Eph. 2:1-6; Rom. 12:1, 2).
Nevertheless, from the beginning of our existence as a movement,
we have understood that it is bet ter to err on the side of mercy
than on the side of severity (Ed 294), but, keeping in mind the
law of God (Luke 16:17, 18) we can not use too much leniency in
connection with marriage problems. In the early days of the Reform
Movement (1931) it was decided that those who are divorced and
remarried when they come to the knowledge of the truth and apply
for membership in our church, may be received in the condition in
which the truth finds them, provided they are legally married. If
they are repentant, God is willing to forgive the mistakes they
made in times of ignorance (Acts 17:30). And, as far as we are
concerned, it is not our mission to dissolve or destroy families
to the detriment of innocent children who need the combined love
and care on the part of father and mother. But when people become
members of the Reform Movement, they assume before God and the
church a serious commitment to the effect that they will
henceforth uphold the principles that we stand for. After that, if
they still want to change their mind (Eccl. 5:4, 5), doing what
they have solemnly pledged themselves not to do, they forfeit
their membership rights in our organization. Can you, dear reader,
imagine what would happen if we decided to compromise our position
in this area? The floodgates of evil would be opened, and we would
possibly have to face an uncontrollable situation.
THE CHIEF BONE
OF CONTENTION
The main purpose
of this writing is to focus on the question of divorce and
remarriage for the guilty party, because this is a conscious,
voluntary and glaring violation of the law of God, where no excuse
at all can be used. On this point we do have a controversy with
the SDA Church. God says to all who are reformers: "Cry
aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and shew my
people their transgression, and the house of Jacob their
sins." Isa. 58:1.
According to the
SDA Church Manual, both husband and wife, both the innocent and
the guilty party, are allowed to remarry, with the distinction
that the innocent party is granted priority in taking this step.
This is the new rule:
"A guilty
spouse, who is divorced, has not the moral right to marry another
while the innocent spouse still lives and remains unmarried and
chaste. Should he or she do so, he or she, if a member, shall be
disfellowshiped. The person whom he or she marries, if a member,
shall also be disfellowshiped....
"A guilty
spouse who has violated his or her marriage vow and has been
divorced and disfellowshiped and who has remarried, or a person
who has been divorced on other than the grounds set forth in
section 1 and has remarried, and who has been disfellowshiped from
the church, shall be considered as standing under the disapproval
of the church and thus ineligible for membership except as
hereinafter provided.
"The
marriage contract is not only more sacred but also in finitely
more complex than ordinary contracts in its possible involvements;
for example, in the factor of the children who may be born. Hence,
in a case where any endeavor by a genuinely repentant offender to
bring his marital status into line with the divine ideal presents
apparently insuperable problems, his or her plea for readmittance
shall, before final action is taken, be brought by the church
through the pastor or district leader to the conference committee
for counsel and recommendation as to any possible steps that the
repentant one, or ones, may take to secure such readmittance.
"Readmittance
to membership of those who have been disfellowshiped for reasons
given in the foregoing sections, shall be on the basis of
rebaptism.
"When a
person who has been involved in divorce proceedings is finally
readmitted to church membership, . . . every care should be
exercised to safeguard the unity and harmony of the church by not
giving such a person responsibility as a leader; especially in an
office which requires the rite of ordination, unless by very
careful counsel."-SDA Church Manual, chapter 15, pp. 268-270
(1981 edition).
The Manual says
(1) that the guilty party is allowed to remarry after the innocent
party has taken this step, and that, in case disfellowshipment is
necessary, (2) the guilty party can be refellowshiped with the
second spouse. Practice, deeply regretted by many honest SDA's,
shows that in many cases even the priority right established by
the conjunction "while . . . " is only a theoretical
delusion. In this respect we have heard many com plaints from
earnest Adventists. The problem is exemplified hereunder:
"Some years
ago a professional man had a succession of flirtations with
various of his secretaries. He finally divorced his wife (a very
fine and outstanding woman), who was not un- faithful to him, and
married the current girl concerned. He and his new wife attended
the same church that his first wife and three children attended.
Of course he and the new wife were disfellowshiped. They continued
to attend church. Some years later he and the new wife and baby
moved elsewhere. He succeeded in convincing the church leaders
there that they should be taken back into church fellowship, which
was done by baptism.
"Another
professional man became infatuated with a musician. He lived with
her for several months, finally returned to his wife and four
children. Then he left again, and divorced his wife, who had
worked hard for years to help care for them and their children
while he was climbing the ladder to success. His wife had not been
unfaithful to him. He married the other girl, and had a baby. He
was disfellowshiped from the church. The second wife had not been
a church member. Some years later, after large financial gifts to
the denomination, he is now a local elder in one of our churches.
"The wife of
one of our ministers was visiting a church one Sabbath, where she
and her husband had once labored. She was horrified to see a man
and wife baptized into the church whom she knew to be guilty
parties in previous divorces. She wept through the service.
"Several
ministers told a couple that they were living in sin, and could
not be taken back into the church. One was a guilty party, and the
other the innocent party to previous divorces. Then other
ministers came along and told them that they were not living in
sin, that they could and should be rebaptized and taken back into
the church, which was done. This has brought confusion and
division in the church, with the loss of souls.
"This
problem of divorce and remarriage is an increasingly serious
problem to this denomination, because of differences of
opinion."-Marguerite S. Williams, M.D. and Roy O. Williams,
D.D.S., Unscriptural Divorces and Social Relationships, pp. 1, 2
(fourth edition, 1956).
The seriousness
of this situation was admitted in one of the most outstanding SDA
publications:
"Divorce and
remarriage is the most perplexing and bewildering problem facing
the church today."-Ministry, Sept. 1954, p. 17.
This is one of
our greatest concerns as we consider the moral and spiritual
condition of the SDA Church today.
The Spirit of
Prophecy says:
"'These are
perilous times for the church of God, and the greatest danger now
is that of self-deception. Individuals professing to believe the
truth are blind to their own danger and wrongs. They reach the
standard of piety which has been set up by their friends and
themselves, they are fellowshiped by their brethren, and are
satisfied, while they entirely fail to reach the gospel standard
set up by our divine Lord. If they regard iniquity in their
hearts, the Lord will not hear them. But with many it is not only
regarded in the heart, but openly carried out in the life; yet in
many cases the wrongdoers receive no rebuke."' 1T 214.
"Many, like
the king of Israel, follow their own carnal de sires, and enter
into unsanctified marriages. Many who started out in life with as
fair and promising a morning, in their limited sphere, as Solomon
had in his exalted station, through one false and irrevocable step
in the marriage relation, lose their souls, and draw others down
to ruin with them." 2BC 1031.
"There are
many unhappy marriages because of so much haste. Two unite their
interest at the marriage altar, by most solemn vows before God,
without previously weighing the mat ter, and devoting time to
sober reflection and earnest prayer. Many move from impulse. They
have no thorough acquaintance with the dispositions of each other.
They do not realize that the happiness of their whole life is at
stake. If they move wrong in this matter, and their marriage life
proves unhappy, it cannot be taken back. If they find they are not
calculated to make each other happy, they must endure it the best
they can." 3SG 120.
COMPARISON
BETWEEN SPIRITUAL AND LITERAL MARRIAGE
The marriage
relation that unites husband and wife is com pared to the relation
which exists between Christ and His church. Read Eph. 5:32: 23-32;
GC 381.
The most
important aspect of the parallel between the symbolic and the
literal marriage, as Paul brings it out, is the wife's subjection
to her husband and the husband's love for his wife.
"For the
husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the
church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church
is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands
in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also
loved the church, and gave himself for it." Eph. 5:23-25.
But there may be
some negative aspects, too. What hap pens, for example, when those
who profess to be God's church prove unfaithful? He rejects them
and chooses others.
"Because
they failed of fulfilling God's purposes, the I children of Israel
were set aside, and God's call was extended to other peoples. If
these too prove unfaithful, will they not in like manner be
rejected?" COL 304.
"For if God
spared not the natural branches, take heed lest he also spare not
thee." Rom. 11:21.
Does this fact
suggest that if apostasy brings a change in the relation between
God and His professed people, then there must also be a similar
change in the relation between husband and wife in case of
adultery? Some say yes. As circumstances may prompt God to reject
His professed church and choose another, it has been suggested
that under similar circumstances a husband may also divorce his
wife and marry another woman. It is claimed that there must be a
perfect parallel.
We understand
that a comparison between the two cases (Christ and the
church/husband and wife) establishes only a limited parallel.
While a man's
wife is just one person, Christ's church is a family (Eph. 2:19;
6T 168; DA 835; 4T 110). When there is apostasy in the church, at
least some of its members remain loyal to the truth. God has never
been left without a true remnant (Rom.11:5). So, through a
succession of faithful remnants, God has had one faithful church
on earth from the beginning until now. In this sense God has never
cast away or withdrawn His presence from His true church (Rom.
11:1, 2; Matt. 28:20), and the gates of hell have never prevailed
against her (Matt. 16:18).
"From the
beginning, faithful souls have constituted the church on earth. In
every age the Lord has had His watchmen, who have borne a faithful
testimony to the generation in which they lived. These sentinels
gave the message of warning; and when they were called to lay off
their armor, others took up the work. God brought these witnesses
into covenant relation with Himself, uniting the church on earth
with the church in heaven. He has sent forth His angels to
minister to His church, and the gates of hell have not been able
to prevail against His people." AA 11.
In case of open
apostasy, the unfaithful majority is referred to as an adulterous
mother, while the faithful remnant is ad dressed as a virgin
daughter (Hos. 2:2). When the mother is rejected, none other than
the daughter takes her place in the symbolic relationship between
God and His people. In the spiritual relationship, even two
daughters may be considered (Ezek. 23:1 18). As can be seen, a
parallel here is impossible between the spiritual and the literal
marriage.
But there is
another aspect where a parallel is possible: God does not reject
His people immediately in case of apostasy. He still pleads with
them to give up their sin. He rejects them only if they refuse to
repent. Read Isa. 1:4, 15-27; 2 Chron. 36:14-16. So, in the
literal marriage relationship, neither the Bible nor the Spirit of
Prophecy encourages divorce where there has been genuine
repentance. Read AH 346. In the spiritual relationship, where God
has already divorced His people because of inveterate apostasy, He
still appeals to the adulterous mother church to return to Him,
and He promises to forgive her and take her back on condition of
repentance and conversion (Jer. 3:1, 7-14, 20-22; Rom. 11:15, 23).
These
circumstances show that the advocates of divorce and remarriage
are making at least two mistakes: (1) where a parallel is possible
they refuse to draw a parallel, because they are not ready to
grant the guilty part a chance to repent and become reconciled to
the injured marriage partner and because they overlook the harm
that would be done to the children (AH 346); (2) and where a
parallel is clearly impossible, because it would suggest incest
(Ezek. 23:1-18), there they want to draw parallel.
We are sorry, but
we cannot agree with them on these points. Our duty is to help
sinners, as far as possible, find repentance, forgiveness of sins,
and reconciliation.
ADDENDUM
MARRIAGE AND
DIVORCE IN THE EARLY CHRISTIAN CHURCH
By T. W. Woolsey
The doctrine of
the ancient church on divorce was tolerably well established long
before marriage came to be regarded as a sacrament in the more
modern sense of that term. At the same time the sacramental
character attached to marriage strengthened the view which
Scripture authorized of its fixed and indissoluble nature. Even
death was held by some, although never by the prevalent opinion,
to be no dissolution of the bond. The original source of the
doctrine was of course the declarations in the gospel, which were
honestly and laboriously interpreted with a pretty uniform result
long before the doctrine of the sacraments was developed. This
doctrine did not first teach the unlawfulness of dissolving the
marriage tie, but took that view from the Scriptures and from the
firm prevalent opinion already spread through the church.
Afterward, however, the sacramental nature of marriage without
doubt acted back to give more of rigor to marriage and to impede
its dissolution. With this and before this the Christian spirit of
forgiveness had an important influence on opinion in regard to
divorce. The high sin of either party against the union might be
repented of and God could forgive it. Why should not the parties
be reconciled also? But for this it was necessary that they should
remain unmarried. When forgiveness and restoration ad integrum
became canonically lawful, there was naturally less need of
relaxation in favor of a final separation with liberty of
remarriage. These three then, Christ's law in the Gospel and as
explained by Paul, the sacramental quality of marriage, the
Christian duty of forgiveness, gave the shape of the doctrine of
divorce in the ancient church. If the marriage had not been a
Christian one, that is, had had no sacramental character, a
complete divorce might take effect in the following cases, and in
these only. In the first place an infidel converted to
Christianity was to put away all his wives but the first. As
however in this instance there was no true marriage according to
Christian doctrine with any but the first wife, there was no real
divorce in ceasing to have any relation to the others, who were
merely concubines. Secondly, a converted infidel, who had put away
his wife and married another, was required to take back again the
first, even if she should have contracted a second marriage. Here
again there was no true divorce, for the I divorce and remarriage
of both the parties was regarded as unlawful. Thirdly, if an
infidel became a convert to Christianity, and his or her married
partner was unwilling to keep up the marriage relation on any
terms, or at least not without blaspheming God or leading the
other into mortal sin, the Christian might be separated from the
infidel so as to contract a new marriage. This decision of the
church was based on an interpretation of 1Corinthians 7:15.... And
here only have we an instance of true divorce. All other cases,
such as marriage to a Jew of a person already a Christian,
marriage of a Catholic to a heretic, or schismatic, either render
the marriage void ab initio- which is not divorce in the
proper sense-or merely justified a separation a mensa et toro,
if even that were allowable.
A very early and
important passage on divorce is contained in the Shepherd of
Hermas (ii Mandat. 4, par. 1). We will give it in English.
"And I said
to him, Master, let me ask thee a few things. Say on, says he, and
I said, If any one had a wife faithful in the Lord, and found her
in adultery, does the man sin if he lives with her? And he said to
me, As long as he is ignorant, the man is without crime, if lives
with her. But if the man had known that his wife had offended, and
the woman had not repented, and if she re mains in her [sexual
sin], and the man lives with her, he will be guilty of her sin and
partaker of her adultery. And I said to him, What then if the
woman shall persist in her vice? And he said, Let the man put her
away, and stay by himself (i.e., remain un married). But if he put
away his wife and take another, he too commits adultery himself.
And I said to him, What if a woman, when put away, shall repent
and wish to return to her husband, shall she not be taken back by
her husband? And he said to me, Verily, if her husband do not take
her back, he sins, and allows himself to commit a great sin; he
ought to take back the sinning woman who has repented; but ought
not to do this often. For there is one repentance for the servants
of God. On account of repentance therefore the man ought not to
marry again. This conduct is incumbent on both man and woman. Nor
is there adultery only, said he, if one pollutes his own flesh,
but he also who makes an idol commits adultery. Hence, if one
persists in such things also and repents not, withdraw from him
and live not with him. Otherwise thou too art partaker of his sin.
For this was the command given to you to remain unmarried, whether
man or woman, for in things of this sort there can be
repentance." [This is from the first century.]
In this passage
it is distinctly asserted that a man who puts away an adulterous
wife, and marries another woman, commits adultery; and another
reason is given for his remaining unmarried -namely that he may be
in a condition to receive her back on her repentance. But such
indulgence cannot extend beyond the first transgression. Here the
foundation on which the first assertion is built is, no doubt, the
words of our Lord, as explained by the Apostle in 1Corinthians
7-"Let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her
husband"-and Hermas conceived that the reconciliation there
referred to was to follow a separation on ac count of the adultery
of the husband. He reasons fairly, as others have done then and
since, that if this be a command for the wife, it is such also for
the husband. Thus his injunctions are all scriptural, according to
his understanding of Scripture. He . . . represents an opinion
that must have been extensively held, and at length became the
ruling one, and all this long before the doctrine of the
sacramental character of marriage obtained currency.
In the next three
centuries many other witnesses appear on the same side.
Clement, of
Alexandria, says (Strom. ii., 23, par. 144) that Scripture
"regards marrying again to be adultery, if the other divorced
partner is living"; and again, a little after (par. 145),
"not only is he who puts away a woman the cause to her of
this (adultery), but he who receives her also, as giving her
opportunity to sin. For if he did not receive her, she would go
back to her husband," where reconciliation is thought of as
possible and desira ble, whatever the woman had done to occasion
the divorce.
Origen seems to
be of the same mind, where he says that some rulers of the church
have permitted a woman to marry, while her husband is alive,
contrary to what is written in 1Corinthians 7:39, and Romans
7:3....
In the fourth
century, near the end, Augustin did more than any other man to
establish the same opinion. He advocates it in several places. His
treatise, de conjugiis adulterinis, . . . was writ ten
especially to show that 1 Corinthians 7:11, "let her remain
unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband," can be
understood only of a wife who has withdrawn from her husband on ac
count of his unfaithfulness....
In this work
Augustin comes on ground where Hermas a stood. Thus he says to his
friend, "what seems hard to you, that one of the married pair
should be reconciled to the other after adultery, will not be hard
if faith is there. For why do we still regard as adulterers those
whom we believe to have been washed by baptism or healed by
repentance?"
Jerome, a
contemporary of Augustin, is also decided in his I opinion on the
same side, as may be seen in his commentary on Matthew 19:4. A
letter of his to a friend, Oceanus, is deserving of mention, as
giving us the case of a divorce and remarriage of a Christian lady
of high condition. Fabiola had a worthless, licentious husband.
She had a right, says Jerome, to repudiate him, although not to
marry again....
From this time
onward the rule became more and more established, that remarriage
after separation was unlawful in the Christian Church, that only
separations a mensa et toro were possible. The proofs of this are
abundant, but they are needless, as the fact of a prevailing, and
at length a universal opinion in the direction named is
unquestioned....
While in the
Western Church marriage became rigidly in; dissoluble, and civil
law was shaped in conformity with ecclesiastical judgments, in the
East the case was otherwise. Some of the Fathers looked with
indulgence on the remarriage of the in nocent party, and, on the
other hand, the law of the Greek Church permitted separation only
when the wife and not when the husband had been unfaithful. But
the civil law did not conform itself to the law of the Church and
of the New Testament, as under stood by the Church, but in some
respects to the laws of Rome under the emperors. For a time even
the principle of divorce by consent of the parties, which
Justinian had abandoned, was again introduced. Remarriage was
allowed somewhat freely, and to this legislation the practice in
the Church was accommodated....
A word or two
ought to be added in regard to the attitude which the [Western]
Church took toward the parties who had been separated from one
another on account of crime. The marriage being dissolved only by
death, the intention of the Church was to excite repentance in the
guilty partner, and after a probation to permit their reunion. The
penance was a long one. In the time of Pope Stephen V (Cent. 9)
the husband could decide whether he would receive back a guilty
wife after she had undergone seven years of penance or be
separated from her altogether. To become thus reconciled was
taught to be the duty of a Christian, according to the words of
Christ, "neither do I condemn thee, go and sin no more."
During their separation the pair were to have no intercourse as
man and wife with one another; and for the violation of this rule
a severe penance was inflicted on the innocent party. When the
marriage was terminated by death and the adulterous partner was
the survivor, Canon law was not so strict as Roman law. The
adulteress for instance could now marry her paramour unless she
had plotted against the life of her husband, or had promised
marriage to the partner of her guilt during the life of her
husband....
We may sum up
what has been said of the separation of married partners during
the early and medieval periods of the Christian Church in the
following simple statements:
1. The prevailing
and at length the unanimous opinion in the Church was that no
crime of either of the consorts, being baptized persons or
Christians, justified the other in marrying again during the life
of the offending party.
2. When an
infidel deserted his or her Christian consort, the latter was
allowed to proceed to a second marriage.
3. The
development of the theory of the sacrament, as far as divorce was
concerned, accepted conclusions already drawn from Scripture.
4. As no crime
entirely released the married pair from their relation to one
another, and as forgiveness and reconciliation, being Christian
duties could now be exercised, consorts separated on account of
adultery could come together again. For a time rigid penance kept
the offender from the innocent party, and penance also was
inflicted on the innocent party who strove to renew intercourse
before the Church was satisfied.
5. In many cases
where marriage was prohibited by canonical law, a sentence of
nullity left them free to unite themselves to other persons.
[Transcribed from the book Divorce and Divorce Legislation, pp.
104-125, by Theodore D. Woolsey.]
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